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“Protect Students, Not Rapists”: What the Cornell Protests Teach Every Parent Sending a Child to College

by Life Coaching Today Network | Nov 9, 2026

By Maxx Angenetta Jones (Just Ask Maxx), Founder, Life Coaching Today

If you need help now: RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org. Call or text 988 if you are in crisis. Call 911 in an emergency.

Key Points

A former Cornell student, identified in court only as Jane Doe, filed a civil lawsuit alleging she was gang-raped at the Chi Phi fraternity house in October 2024.
Students protested on campus in October 2026 with signs reading “Protect Students Not Rapists.”
The conversation parents have before move-in day can protect a child for years.

What We Know

Here are the facts as reported. A former Cornell University student, using the name Jane Doe in court, filed a civil lawsuit alleging she was sexually assaulted by multiple men at the Chi Phi fraternity house on October 19, 2024. The fraternity chapter was shut down, and reports say some students were expelled. Lawyers for two of the former students have denied that their clients took part. As of the latest reports we found, no criminal charges had been filed.

The case became a statewide story. New York Governor Kathy Hochul said the young woman had been failed and named the state Attorney General as a special prosecutor to review it. Cornell President Michael Kotlikoff released a video apology. On campus, students gathered with signs that said what so many parents were thinking: Protect Students, Not Rapists.

These are allegations, and the legal process is not finished. We are not naming the survivor, and we are not naming the accused. What we can do is talk about what this means for our own families.

Why This Hits Parents So Hard

We spend years saving for tuition, buying dorm sheets and filling out forms. Then we drop our children off and pray. A story like this reminds every parent that the most important preparation is not the meal plan. It is the conversation.

The Coaching Moment: Talking to Your College-Bound Kids

For your daughters and your sons:

Make a buddy rule. Arrive together, leave together and keep one person sober. I have done this with my own friends for years.
Keep your drink in your hand. If you set it down, get a new one.
Share your location with a friend at every party.
Know the campus resources before you need them: the Title IX office, campus police, the counseling center and RAINN.
“You can always call me.” Say it out loud, and mean it, with no lecture when they do.

For your sons, specifically:

Consent is a clear, sober yes. Drunk is not yes. Silence is not yes. “I don’t know” is not yes.
Be the one who steps in. If a friend is taking a drunk girl upstairs, interrupt. Your loyalty to her safety comes before your loyalty to the group.
Leave the group that does wrong. No brotherhood is worth your character.

If Your Child Tells You Something Happened

Say “I believe you, and this is not your fault.” Do not ask what they were drinking first. Help them get medical care and let them choose their next step. Then get support for yourself, too. Parents carry this pain, and you deserve help carrying it. Our coaches at Relationship Rescue are available 24/7 to help you steady yourself so you can be steady for your child.