Sometimes Big Things Have Small Beginning

Sometimes Big Things Have Small Beginning

This is a quotation is from the book and film titled “Lawrence of Arabia.” If you have not seen that film, I suggest that you watch it, and pay close attention to an array of characters whose lives sing. Mostly, the story is true. It seems that while the vast majority of people stumble through their lives and merely react to what happens to them, ever so often, a world-shaper comes onto the scene.

The thing about T. E. Lawrence is that he recognized at an early age, his ability to cause monumental change. In fact, read about him before you watch the film. See how a person of privilege, who seemed to be mediocre at best, identified the world that he would change, studied it, and prepared to enter it before an opportunity came that would allow him to plan how to do it. This is such out-of-bounds thinking from the rest of us. The rest of us, being those who are not the stumblers, are achievers of something big, but probably something petty, something that enriches only us. Yet, it is rare to find such a capable person as Lawrence, who might achieve greatness for himself, yet he chose to help a people be great, and not the people with whom he was affiliated. In fact, British army generals and British politicians were convinced that he had done extraordinary things for Britain when he did them, but that was not true. He did extraordinary things in order to enable Arab people to reclaim independence that they once had.

Today, much emphasis is placed on technology, but what is technology without a human being to wield it? What was Lawrence’s small beginning? He rode alone into the desert on a camel to meet with a local tribal leader. If he could not impress the Arab, he would be killed. He hired an Arab guide, and straight away, he listened to the guide, and he counseled him like a father might counsel a son. The two of them played a game during their journey, each trying to be the most moral. When Lawrence understood that his Arab guide greatly appreciated personal arms, he gave him his pistol, his only personal protection. Already, he reasoned that he was not going to accomplish anything worthwhile through personal combat, so he did not need the pistol. Instead, he would do great things through personal example.

From the beginning of no consequence, Lawrence created a consequence when he stood up to the Arab leader just after the leader killed the guide because he drank water from the leader’s tribal well.

At the risk of his own life, at the risk of any greatness that he might have done, Lawrence berated the leader for placing so much value on his tribal trappings and so little value on the life of a brother Arab. That was the small, but risky beginning of a great thing.

If you are going to do something big with your life, you must be all in. No one can find a flaw if you are true and transparent. Other people follow those who behave that way. They follow the sort of people who give meaning to everyone’s life.

The key to accomplishing something big is to be a true leader, and to plan and prepare to lead. That is how you and everyone else who follows you will do something greater than yourselves.

What is a Moral Conscience?

What is a Moral Conscience?

What is a moral conscience? For that matter, what are morals and what is a conscience? Morals are defined as standards and principles by which people live. These are the social mores that keep us safe, allow us to enjoy liberty, and protect us from danger.

A conscience is the personal sense of integrity, doing the right thing because it is good for most people most of the time. It may not be good for everyone. For example, I love my neighbor’s flowers and pick them so that I can share them with hundreds of people, making them filled with joy. My neighbor however is distraught to find her gorgeous blooms decimated by my good intentions.

A moral conscience is driven by a sense of the common good, doing the right thing at the right time but also allowing personal choice and autonomy. I may want to strike up a parade in honor of friends who have united in a same-sex marriage. It is my privilege to celebrate and cheer. It is also the right of others to refuse to join the party – it is not their right to pass judgment by refusing to serve the party. Their moral conscience says, “No” but their moral conscience must also say, “Yes” to my right to have an opinion and to act upon it as long as I am not seeking to hurt others just as this right is extended to others?

Now this is where I become confused. I have the right to behave as I see fit as long as I do not infringe on the rights of others, so why do some of differing opinion believe that they must stomp and shout and prevent the freedom allotted to us all? Some say it is their religion; others say it against social mores. A third group just finds it repugnant. These three factors are all inanimate. Religion is just words; social mores are general standards; repugnancy is a personal feeling and emotion. How can anyone determine his/her right to discriminate in a land where we are supposed to be free?

This loss of allowing the right of others to disagree is what scares me most about our upcoming elections. When did Americans become so narrow-minded and self-serving? Whether it is prayer in schools, abortion choices, or the right to carry or not carry a gun, somehow, we have become a nation of intolerance, a nation of, “Believe like me or else!” Personally, I dread the next twenty months of degrading advertisements and shouting matches. I yearn for the leader who listens, evaluates, and compromises instead of cow-towing to big money and imaginary party lines. Does such a personal exist?

Letting Go of Not Knowing Who You Are

Letting Go of Not Knowing Who You Are

If you sometimes feel as if you don’t know who you are, it is just because too many people are forcing their own ideas on you about who should you be, instead of letting you be who you already are. It is time to let go of all of these unreasonable expectations of others and be the authentic you again.

We all have our moments, when we feel completely lost when we feel like there is no direction for us, no meaning in our life, like there is not even a future or life for us.

However, that is just because we have lost, for a moment, the sense of who we really are. We have simply lost the connection with our true selves and we need to re-establish this connection again.

This feeling of not knowing who we are is, as a matter of fact, a very common one, and is often a direct result of the pressure of our surroundings, including society, our family, our work, media, and even schools and some religions.

We are constantly being pushed into other people’s perceptions regarding who we should be, how we should act, how we should deliver on the acceptance of others.

As a result, we feel a constant inner battle between who we are, who we want to be, and who the surroundings want us to be. No surprise that in such a mess, we don’t know who we really are at all!

Fortunately, it is all, again, just a feeling. And any feeling can be let go!

Once we identify these negative feelings connected to the question of who we really are, or just to the negative feeling of not knowing who we are, we will be able to release these negative feelings, let them go, and rediscover the unique “I” behind them. It is like a lot of haze being in our head, but once this haze is dissolved gradually by constantly letting go, what we will finally see is our clear, authentic self. And this is the moment when we reconnect with our true self again, and our life will start having a direction again. Energy, peace and abundance will come back to our lives – simply because we will be finally allowed to express ourselves fully and therefore start attracting everything we have always wanted in our lives with a new level of confidence, self-esteem, faith and a certain level of joy, instead of fear.

The concept of letting go of not knowing who we are is one of the most abstract concepts in which we can apply letting go to, but it is also the one having the biggest possible long-term impact. This, surely, is again something that quite often needs more letting go exercises and, for a full impact, it might need to be practiced for a few weeks, perhaps even months. But it is truly a life changing experience, once the haze and doubts about who we are let go. Sometimes, it is even like being reborn.

Here is the letting go process for who you are:

  1. In a quiet place, close your eyes. Let your mind bring up any feelings in relation to not knowing who you are. Don’t judge any of them! Very important!
  2. Start embracing and experiencing these feelings fully.
  3. Again, DON’T JUDGE any of these feelings, and mainly, DON’T judge yourself in any way! Just let the feelings come out and experience them, without any attachments. Be an observer of your own feelings, without any attachment or judgment. If you start having any feeling like “I can’t”, just start experiencing feelings of “I canĀ“t” and let them go as well.
  4. Start surrendering yourself to these feelings slowly; let them express themselves fully all over your body (or any other part where you feel them most intensively). Don’t push them back; don’t block them or act on them either. Just let them be in their natural way and instead, be an independent observer, as if they weren’t even yours.
  5. After a while, decide about letting them go once and forever, and then let them actually go and disappear.
  6. Once the wave of the feelings is let go, ask yourself: “Who am I”?
  7. If you l feel any negative or unclear feelings again, repeat the process from the first step, until these negative feelings and negative self-judgments are gone.

After some practice, you will really start feeling and understanding your true nature. It will be a very positive revelation and it will slowly start changing your life and increasing your self-esteem. Don’t be afraid of doing this practice more often and keep practicing for weeks, or even months.

And for a final inspiration – a short video with very powerful meditation on who you really are.

Just be yourself!