Modify Your Habits to Raise Your Self-esteem

Modify Your Habits to Raise Your Self-esteem

Behavioral psychologists state that we may change our feelings by adjusting our behavior. For example, a few studies have shown that we become more satisfied if we walk about with a smile on our faces.

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You can hasten your path to expanded confidence by adjusting your behavior. Try smiling a lot. It will help you push back feelings of negativism.

Praise other people on their strengths. You’ll find that others will pay the kindness and praise you back. We all like to hear great things about us!

Work out and get enough sleep—both of these behavioral characteristics better our feelings. You’ll feel better within and outside and seem better also!

Take time regularly to plan for the following day. By projecting ahead, we evade mistakes that make us feel unclean about ourselves. Think through the next morning to stop minor flaws that may bother you.

Hypnosis is a way of using rest to focus your mind on some part of your plan that you would like to change. You can put yourself in a hypnotic state of trance if you’ve time and a tranquil place to focus on suggestions you decide on and are agreeable to follow.

A few of the things you can do with self-hypnosis are control pain, restrict or quit smoking, and keep overindulging, worry, and stress under control. You choose the idea you’ll give yourself–and the system is under your control.

Before you begin, choose what advice you’ll give yourself in hypnosis about the direction you want to alter. For example, if you would like to be less afraid, you may suggest, “When I awaken, I’ll be cool and centered and in charge of my anxieties today.” Make it a welcome idea. Say it, and begin with a moderately small short term goal.

Then create a calm place where you won’t be obstructed for about half an hour. Sit in a comfortable pose in a comfy chair.

Shut your eyes, breathe gently, and try to calm your subconscious by setting thoughts out of it once. Occasionally it helps to think of something impersonal, like the color black, when ideas return to your brain.

Free up your body part by part. It might be more convenient to begin with, your toes, work up your legs to your trunk and arms, and finally release up your neck and head. State to yourself, “loosen up your toes. Loosen up your feet. Loosen up your heels. Loosen up your ankles.” Loosen up the part wholly before you go on to the following one. You are trying to feel the ease of reaching up to your body.

When you’re wholly relaxed, state to yourself that you’re now in a great place, where you’re ready to get the idea that you would like to bring out to change your behavior: “I’m now in a great place, and I’m calm and centered and in control of my concerns.”

Go over the part about “I’m calm and centered and in control of my concerns” many times. Concentrate your mind on it and restate it to yourself like a mantra (that’s what it is). Get it part of your brain.

Bring yourself out of the mesmerizing mood bit by bit. State to yourself that when you count to five, you’ll be up and that you’ll recognize your suggestion and be able to carry through with it. And then count to five.

Genuine Happiness

Genuine Happiness

Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for a while… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self. So, how does one become genuinely happy?

Step 1 is to love yourself.
My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.
Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought-after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Everyone has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much bestselling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling yourself “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”. For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.
Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”