True Harmony

True Harmony

I wanted to share the story of my journey to becoming a certified women’s coach and business consultant and the extremely proud owner of Harmony Business and Life Solutions.  Based in Scotland I help many women find their light and claim back their power of self-limiting beliefs within themselves and enable them to see there is far more to their lives than the condition of their old story which leads to my old story I wanted to share with you all.

I feel finally for the first time in my life I am no longer surviving but thriving. Recently I had a massive tattoo of a Phoenix inked on my back so I will always remind myself that no matter where I’ve come from, what I’m going through I will rise and soar higher than before.

I grew up in a little humdrum city in Scotland in an abusive family structure where my father was sexually and physically abusive to myself and domestically violent to my mother. He was a functioning alcoholic and in power within the oil and gas industry. My first memory of him is kicking me across the kitchen with steel toe boots and driving a knife through his arm as my mum tried to leave him. My mother thought I love her dearly had us young became also very abusive to myself and my brother physically often lashing out at us after my father left the household. I didn’t have my own room until I was 16 (I shared with my two my brothers and was thrown out a year later) so I was brought up between my mums and my grandparents and great aunts where I had many many happy times and safe spaces to be me and not a parent to my younger brothers. It was like a parallel universe in comparison to the way I would live with them to mum. Mum brought us up on a council estate where nana and papa were well off and had us to a good school, would take us there and make us breakfast and engage with us whereas mum would make me take my brother of 8 when I was 12 on a bus daily across town. I’m lucky I had them growing up.

This pattern of lack of self-worth and identity carried on for years in my life from being the troubled girl to the party girl to finding myself in my first serious relationship abused by him also. He broke my ribs and face with beatings, used to spit on me, tried to kill me by placing my head in a bin bag, beating me in front of his family and our friends I left him at 23 with nothing more than a suitcase and began life again. Fortunately, I had always been street smart and intelligent (I have always enjoyed learning) so I got a little place and became a make-up artist, rented space, and went back to uni to study business through distance learning. At 25 I had a successful business and decided I had had enough of the humdrum city mentality.

 I cut my father off deciding I no longer needed his pick me up and drop me creepy behavior which is the very trigger of me feeling I wasn’t enough to be loved and protected by a man. I moved to Edinburgh and a new story began. 

I met another man who I gave my full dived attention and I thought he wasn’t abusive, he had been my friend back home and I changed my whole life for him. You should never need to change yourself for any partner and unfortunately this year 3 days before lockdown in Scotland  I discovered he had a double life and another woman for nearly the four years we were together. He too was abusive but in a way, I had never thought I had experienced. He was emotionally and mentally abusive. He made me feel that only he could love me and no one would ever want me because to him I was damaged goods and didn’t like me having any life so I stopped going out, dressing for me, living, having my friends which were and are my family, he used to tell me I would be better off dead until I acted upon that and tried to take my own life two years ago. To anyone who thinks about suicide, it’s not because want to die it’s because you want the pain to stop. That feeling of nothingness to go away.. 

After that I knew I had to heal, things had to change but you can’t heal in what makes you sick. You can grow slowly but you will take a step back. After discovering his lies this year my healing ramped up not just a level but a whole new game. I have always had a passion and a dream to help others, even in the darkest times of my old story I still helped others to find the solutions to their own problems.

This year for the first time in my adult life  I came off all antidepressants and anxiety meds. I started seeing a shrink for the PTSD I had been left with and I finished my degree in business management and then carried out a diploma in coaching so I could help other women who had been through things they felt were preventing them from being the queen they are in life. When I chose to believe life was no longer happening to me but for me, the universe literally gifted me my wildest dreams. I have never been so freaking comfortable with my life. I’m happy, I’m healthy and I matter. I’m nobody’s punch bag. I’m a strong independent woman. I have amazing friends and clients that tell me I inspire them from all over. And though the last 30 years haven’t always been the greatest there is something great to take from it all.

As a coach, I don’t just have the formal qualifications of the university but I have my degree in the university of life too.

No matter what life throws at you, you get the choice on how you handle it, the choice who is in your life, and the choice to believe that you should never ever settle for the conditions of hurt, bitterness, or less-ness other people place on you.

Phoenix to the golden flames finds the strength to rise again….

Power Up Your Inner Coach

Power Up Your Inner Coach

“Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes,
And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes”
– James Allen in As A Man Thinketh

As human beings, we are bestowed with an inner knowing that enables us to consciously choose the
course of our lives. Like a ship’s weather monitoring system, this guidance is ever present to you, the
Captain at the wheel, to sail through everyday life. The question then is, why do we find it so difficult
to make the right choices, to navigate masterfully, not just in rough waters but even when the sea is
calm?
Say, you are about to go to the gym or have a critical work assignment to close or an urgent errand
to run and at that very moment, you happen to pick up your cellphone and look at a YouTube
notification. A voice in your mind tells you of your task at hand but one glance at the video feed
lights up your eyes and another voice says, just watch this one video and by now, you know what
happens next. In Timothy Gallwey’s “Inner Game of Tennis”, he writes about this back and forth
mental game we play and labels these voices as Self1 & Self2.
Now imagine the same dilemma, when it is time to make life altering changes, like a business
purchase, marriage or buying a house. Or maybe you want to rid someone or something damaging
from your life.
At that point, how would it feel to have developed the ability to bank on your own mental and
emotional acumen to decide effectively? How empowering to know that you played this game so
well that those voices turned into Consultant1 & Consultant2 or in other words you created your
own inner coach.
This is where life coaching comes in.
When preparing for my coaching certification, a pre-requisite was to complete one hundred
coaching hours and to accomplish this, I could employ the services of other coaches at various stages
of their own certification. I consider this period to be one of the most elevating experiences of my
life. Two weeks come to mind, where I spoke to five different coaches, to whom I poured out all the
challenges that I had faced since childhood. And as a past life regressionist, the universe kindly
connected me to spiritual coaches too, with whom I shared predicaments from previous lives. I
remember telling a friend that it felt as if five doctors had administered care to different wounds and
I slowly and steadily gained healing. I felt so fortunate to get the opportunity to open up and share
my anxieties and issues with non-judgmental, supportive and encouraging individuals who had
nothing but the best intentions for me. Even after so many years as an executive coach, I was
wonderfully reminded of the power of sharing, deep questioning and planning.
Dear reader, I cite this example to bring to life the fact that your inner coach also needs a voice of
reason to build itself. Of course, you do not need five coaches. But there are times in life when our
inner coach, like a phone battery has just one bar charged and needs to power up to fully support us.

I have worked with over 500 individuals over the last 10 years, from varying backgrounds. As a
coach, it is highly satisfying to observe clients have clarity of thought a-ha moments and take action
during the coaching process but the most fulfilling part is to witness the development of their own
voice of reason, mental fortitude and emotional resilience.
Once your inner coach is powered up, your thoughts crystallize more easily, the decision making
process is clearer and you will find that you have a willing and able partner and teacher within who is
always working on your behalf.
Allow yourself to initiate this process through reflection and self-management. As a practice, find a
quiet corner at the start of the day where you and your inner coach have the space to consult each
other and remember to journal takeaways to refer later during the day. This is an enriching way to
begin self-empowerment and will act as a strong lead in to working with a life coach.

I wish you all the best in this journey, as I quote Mahatma Gandhi who once said
“A Man is but a product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.”

Business Blogging to Boost your Business

Business Blogging to Boost your Business

Business blogging is an unbelievable online marketing means that conserve you thousands of dollars but gives numerous business opportunities in just one snap. Blogs are customized, user-friendly, and adaptable to distribute valuable data for your outputs’ efficient positioning in the business.

Businesses involving enterprise blogging have a clear advantage beyond their opponents. Here are some benefits to boost your business with blogging:

Word-of-Mouth. There are currently 14 million blogs combining 80,000 more each day in a study, and about 30 percent of the 50 million users are blog readers. Think about how much increase your business will have if your promotion through blogs. With the Internet, news spreads so fast, especially if an effective write-up goes with your product. Quickly, hundreds of potential clients will view your blog.
Information and reliability. Open connection with your clients builds trust and integrity among them. Replying to their inquiries and remarks makes them more enthusiastic to try your products and services.
Feedback. Blogs are excellent for product inquiry and reviews. It will be more accessible to promote your products if you keep your customers’ thoughts and behavioral patterns. You can also take direct action to your customers’ attention.
Community halo-effect. Bloggers are intelligent, kind, and accommodating. They are more than agreeable to create a blogosphere of remarks concerning your product.
The exclusive thing you have to do is comprise and take an effective part in the culture, and your goods will be on the list for their next stop to the supermarket.

For more beneficial marketing events, actively advance your business blogs by getting your blogs to blog search websites and lists. Do not neglect to stick in with your blogs, your URL. Be certain that your blogs include exclusive knowledge with excellence and are constantly updated to maintain users jumping in; visit your blog, move on to the next, and click on repeatedly for updates.

A blog is like a settings booth in the most influential trade show on earth every day. Marketing opportunities are just around the corner, anticipating to discover your business scales up.

The Simple Syndication (RSS) supplies necessary, too, in connection with your blogs to get the greatest gains. Use valuable keyword phrases to create high ranking standing in the search engine traffic. In this way, you have greater possibilities of people discovering your website, pointing to your blogs. More traffic means possible business.

For this to be prosperous, you can use RSS for news update feeds, which you can read through the RSS reader application. It is a valuable tool for marketing and internet marketers, as well.

If you are already established with the potentials of business blogs for marketing and targeting sales progress, your business is now ready to start blogging. But first, you have to be in harmony with your company’s business goals and decide if blogging will help you attain your goal.

1. Some blogs give time to educating people on the do’s and don’ts of blogging; Learn them! Add in your reading blogs that are consumer-based, too, to provide you an idea.
2. Setup numerous blogs right away for a test

If your first try out with blogs went well, you can now begin creating your blogs.

1. Study how to design a blog. Blog hosting provides pre-designed templates. But if you opt for advanced blog service, you can request your artist to plan and layout your blog site to meet the company’s identification and requirements.
2. Pick a topic. It’s good to have a line-up of materials you want for your blogs but be sure they arrange with your business goals. It would be a test of your versatility and open-mindedness since issues may be going opposite the set purposes.
3. Learn the following safety standards in blogging:

  • Legal matters are sometimes included in blogging; it is safer to add disclaimers and limitations of possibilities;
  • Corporate information and legal field are accountable for instructing the senior administrators on how blogs might influence business;
  • Design blogging policies; established limits on who takes to blog and what data are permitted to be made public;
  • Evade unmitigated marketing blog, or you will shy off from your readers;
  • Get content up to date, consistent, and fresh;
  • Strengthen the company’s focus values; and,
  • Inspire employees to use it.
    4. Begin blogging and write 20 posts before going to marketing.
    5. Start marketing.
    6. Constantly observe the coming ins and outs of readers and get updates. Then, scale your results.
    7. Modify if required. You can always play with your ideas on the blog site as long as it continues to match the company’s personality.
    8. Aim to be constant with your topic all the time.
    9. Try to have separate topics with extensive and wide fascination.
    10. Plan updates constantly. Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday would be most suitable for updating blogs.

Once you have made all these things, you can now eventually enjoy the advantages of business blogging.

Is There A Need for Conflict Coaching

Is There A Need for Conflict Coaching

Conflict coaching is a set of coaching strategies and skills to help clients manage conflict and resolve conflict. Having the coach act as a neutral third party gives the client someone to use as a sounding board to explain, consider, and contemplate solutions to the conflict.

When to Use Conflict Coaching

The obvious answer is, of course, whenever a client is experiencing conflict. But, using a coaching conflict cab in various situations and circumstances. You can use it to resolve disputes in the workplace, either between employees or between employee and employer, in family and love relationship situations, and in all aspects of life that gives rise to some form of conflict.

Every Type of Coach Can be a Conflict Coach

It doesn’t matter if you are a life coach, executive coach, relationship coach, health coach, or any other kind of coach. You will probably have to work with conflict management and resolution with some client at some time. The more you know about working with conflict, the more you will find the right outcomes for more of your clients.

Conflict Causes Stress

Some people thrive off conflict – a day without fighting is like a day without sunshine to them. However, most people don’t like confrontation – it causes them stress. Stress is one of the most common mitigating factors for people trying to reach their goals and dreams. Conflict coaching helps people reduce stress; the less stress in life, the more likely people will create a workable action plan and reach their goals.

How to Coach the Conflict

There are a few steps involved with conflict coaching that can help identify the real source of the conflict, manage that conflict, and eventually resolve it. Here are a few of the most important steps:

Interviewing: Most coaches employ interviewing techniques in the practices, as it is one of the most common coaching tools. It is especially important when trying to discern the source of any conflict.

Identify goals. Once again, this tool is used in virtually every coaching session and is of critical importance to figuring out a solution to any conflict. When resolving a dispute, the client must have identifiable and measurable goals.

Explore options that are similar to brainstorming, where you explore and describe various options for resolving conflict. The more options you specify, even ones that may seem absurd, the better. Once you create a list of options, you work with the client to narrow it down to choices that seem workable and fair to both parties.

Create an action plan from the best options list and help the client implement it, which requires support, motivation, guidance, and inspiration.

Assess and measure. Every plan needs to be assessed and measured, and this one is no different. Conflict coaching is just like any other type of coaching – assessments matter! Did it work? Did it move the needle slightly? Did it make things worse? Once you make an assessment, you can move on to the next possible steps – unless it worked, then you have successfully resolved a conflict and found the right outcome for your client!

How to Pick a Niche Coaching Business

How to Pick a Niche Coaching Business

Selecting a niche coaching business will help you focus your talents and skills and narrow your target market to make marketing and promotion more natural. Though choosing a niche can be a great idea, it’s wise to do a little analysis and research before narrowing your group of potential clients.

3 Keys About Making Money in Coaching before you pick a niche coaching business, ask yourself these two questions:

Is there a large enough market for your services?
Does the market want your services?
Can your target market afford your services?

If you can answer these questions with a YES, then you might have a target market for your coaching business that can be profitable over the long term.

Top 6 Reasons to Choose a Niche Coaching Business

To make more money with less marketing effort.
To focus on building visibility and reputation faster.
To create a distinctive brand that will tag you as an expert in a specific coaching business segment.
To reduce the amount of competition.
To create a dominant presence in the coaching industry.
To leverage your coaching and marketing efforts into various products and additional streams of income.

Build it, and They Will Come

While staying a non-specific coach might mean you have a broader target market, your marketing efforts will be less focused and may cost more to reach the people interested in your services. So, you have to build a business to fit your market. Any successful entrepreneur will tell you that one of the most important secrets to success is that people will purchase your products or services if they feel it addresses their particular wants or needs.

That’s why a niche if chosen correctly, has the highest chance to make your coaching business profitable and sustainable over the long term. Niche coaching businesses have more potential to explode in the marketplace!

How to Select the Right Niche For a Coaching Business

There are many variables when selecting the right niche coaching business; every coach’s situation and the market will vary, but these general guidelines will help you make the right decision when choosing a niche.

Make sure your niche is well defined. Writing a good business plan before you move into your place will help you identify your niche’s parameters.
Be sure the target business is big enough to be profitable. Though narrowing the target market is one reason you select a niche, you don’t want to make it too small.
You can pick a niche based on your own story, experience, skills, connections, or any other reason that gives you an advantage in the market.
Make sure the target market has identifiable wants and needs – more accessible to market and coach.
Perhaps the most essential factor for selecting a niche coaching business is to ensure you can provide outcomes that your potential clients seek. The right results are a combination of experience, skill, knowledge, and passion.